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Writer's pictureBobbi Fallon

Do Until It Is True

“Fake it ‘til you make it” is something we hear all the time. I would, however, change the phrase to “do until it is true” . This way there is a positive reinforcement of what is true to us rather than what is perceived as “fake”.  I believe this notion carries some important lessons in perseverance. At our core, if we listen very closely and intently, we find our true essence, our calling. It is the undoing of years of living in this physical realm, the removal of societal imprints on our conscience and freedom from expectation that will allow us to live whole-heartedly in our truths. This is easier said than done - as most things are - but allow me to share ways we can practice living truthfully. 


The actual finding of what our truth actually is, is an imperative step, without it we will simply be mirroring what we think to be our truth which is in fact a copy of someone or something else. There are some ways to do this, it involves a lot of intentional listening. Meditation would be my automatic suggestion. But if the thought of sitting in a silent room alone with your thoughts scares you, remember that meditation embodies many forms. Other ways to find meditation is through practices like yoga, tai chi, breathwork, painting, art, walking in nature, watching nature and listening to music (without lyrics so as to not compel your mind to enter a journey of thoughts) this is to name a few. When we meditate there is a very rich and warm feeling that emerges - I believe this to be the feeling of truth and authenticity. I have familiarized myself with how this feels in my body and when I am living life in the world and I embody this feeling - I take that as resonance and alignment with my truth. I think it is equally important to familiarize ourselves with how we feel when something doesn’t resonate with us. If we listen carefully there is a voice giving us answers in real time and at all times. This is our internal blueprint. Take note. 


As a songwriter I feel lucky to have always felt at home when writing my songs. Songwriting is a meditation for me and in doing so I arrive at many answers. I enter a flow state and will say things that didn’t even appear as a thought in my head but somehow makes its way out of my subconscious and into a melody. I always have my voice memos recording me when I write because I will often forget what I have said or sung. I don’t ever put pressure on creating, this would ruin my experience and I wouldn't achieve the authenticity of being fully immersed. 

I believe that society and modern times have ingrained many untruths in our heads that we mimic in our daily practices. There is a lot of undoing to be done before we truly find ourselves. It is the removal of the layers of years of conditioning. After finding our essence, it is time to live this until it becomes the new ingrained conditioning. We must constantly seek the feeling of home in everything we do until it becomes our new norm. If something is not in alignment with our essence, we have to put hard boundaries in place to ensure we are staying faithful to who we are. We must keep doing this until it becomes our automatic response. 


For example if I woke up one day and felt in my core that my purpose and truth was to become a florist, I would start living each day the way a florist does until it becomes my lived truth. I would seek out all the best flowers, read books on flowers and visit nurseries every day. Eventually I would be a florist (even though I already was one the day I decided to be one). It is the validation of having experience and time under our belts that reinforces the fact that it is true. I realized this recently when I found myself fully trusting the fact that I am a songwriter. There were so many years I didn’t trust myself with the title because I didn’t feel I was qualified enough or have enough experience. But I was always a songwriter even when I hadn’t written a single song. It took me years of writing hundreds of songs and releasing music to fully believe it. The magic potion was what I was doing the whole time, whether I believed it to be true or not, I kept going. I put in the hours and put pen to paper. I didn’t ever talk myself out of it because in my core I knew it to be true. My ego was the only thing that would place doubt in my mind. I ignored it anyway. I can easily say today that I have gotten to a place where I have persevered in living my truth. Every day. I am a songwriter. I do and it is true. 

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